I am going to go on a little rant, so I apologize in advance, but hang in there with me! Not only am I sick of the bullying that goes on of those who are overweight, but I have also realized how sick I am of people putting others down for being in small, in shape or choosing to eat what they desire and fuel their body with healthy nutrients instead of junk!
STOP JUDGING. IT IS NOT YOUR LIFE TO JUDGE.
The term healthy comes in all shapes and sizes, and just because someone isn't a size 4 doesn't mean their not healthy. Hormones, chronic stress, increased toxins in the body, genetics and autoimmune diseases are just a few points that can make it difficult to lose or gain weight, but that does not make someone unhealthy. Vise Versus, just because someone is a size 2 doesn't mean they don't eat, are unhealthy or "need a cheeseburger."
Putting people down by saying some of the examples below can have serious effects on someone's mental health.
Stop judging. Stop being jealous. Stop saying hurtful things to people just to put them down and make yourself feel better. Stop bullying. Lift one another other up. Empower each other.
If you are struggling with self-esteem issues or any mental problems in regards to weight:
My personal story
I work hard for the way I look, and even before I was told I have multiple food intolerances I always lead a highly active life with good sources of nutrient intake, and for most of my life I have heard "you're too skinny," "someone get her a cheeseburger," "I'm not going to be friends with skinny people this year," "you need to eat a piece of cake," "your legs are too small," "do you even eat?" Yes, ever since my "diagnosis," I have lost weight, and that is likely because I eliminated most processed dairy, grains and sugar in my life some being cow's milk, wheat and soy. Let's not forget... I was in college, so in reality it was okay I lost a few of the "sophomore 15," (in my case) that never left me. However, just because I have a small waist and a flat stomach does not mean I do not work hard to be healthy. I try and work out as often as I can; more so I move my body as much as I can and feed my body with whole, non-processed foods. I am healthy. I am not "skinny," and I will refuse to let my intolerances, size or other people's comments define me as a person.
All of the above comments are typically followed by multiple laughter's by outsiders, and it is frustrating because I just want to scream "I can't eat a cheeseburger or a piece of cake, nor do I want to because of my lifestyle choices and the knowledge I have learned through my education." My most favorite comments are "what do you do to stay so skinny?" or "she probably doesn't eat anything" because this gives me a moment to explain to them how much I do eat and educate people on the importance of food! Being healthy = eating whole foods, self care, gut health, sleeping well, removing toxins, and eating whenever you're hungry. So many American's under-eat, which often times leads to weight gain, which make sense as nearly half of Americans are overweight or obese, yet there is more healthy-conscious food and information availability than ever before.
So, why is it that we have to be unhealthy to fit in? It's a sad sad world we live in, but I am just thankful that I have a good sense of humor and I am able to brush off the comments and know that I do not need to make unhealthy choices just to "fit in" and not be laughed at. However, there are many people out there who can't just laugh it off or move on, and those comments can turn into a mentality issue of "well now I can't gain weight because everyone sees me as skinny, so if I put on a few pounds they will notice," which can then turn into an eating disorder. It's as simple as that people.
"Be kind to one another" -Ellen Degeneres
REMEMBER, YOU HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO IDEA WHAT IS GOING ON WITH SOMEONES LIFE OR BODY...PHYSICALLY, MENTALLY OR EMOTIONALLY.